Oh baby girl
Tomorrow morning at 8:15am we are off to get you the meningitis B Jab. Its costing mummy and daddy a lot of pennies, as the health system wont give to all children, but your life is priceless so we are trying to do the best we can to keep you safe.
You are not the best fan of jabs since your age 3 jabs at the doctors but we have been practicing lots and lots and mummy has changed the name of it to superpower scratch jab . The superpower is to fight a horrible disease in this world and the scratch part is the feeling the jab gives you. This seems to have helped a lot and with the added large toy you seem good to go. You tell me that you will be able to punch the disease with your superpowers lol.
When thinking of having a baby no one prepares you for the emotions of trying to do your best. I try to think of the best ways to keep you safe and also not to believe everything which is told in the world. The health industry is at the same time a business and I try and keep this in mind when considering best options for you. Meningitis however is a horrible horrible monster that I don’t want to have to deal with . We had a big scare when you were a 4 month old baby and I don’t want that again. This jab will protect you all through your life and although many strains of meningitis I am doing what I can , with what is available to keep you safe.
Be brave tomorrow my little one we will be there with you , as always , It might be sore but if the horrible monster got you it would be worse. 2 mins of the superpower scratch jab and it will be all over and the magic fairy will be right there to heal it .
Mummy and Daddy
From the moment you meet someone its “when you getting a ring on that finger?” , “When is the wedding ?” , “Do you guys want kids ?” and then the “When you having another?”
Its usually from someone who has done all the above and living their, now routine, life through you . Maybe I am being harsh but from someone that has heard these comments A LOT I feel strongly about leaving people to do things their way and in their own time.
It’s not a race and there is no rule book
SO here I am having met someone , got the ring , got married and had the baby . So I am around about the last question. “When is the second baby coming?” . Well its not. One child fits us and our life nicely . Is this selfish .
I am in this life with my amazing family once and our life isn’t straight forward 9 -5 . Gary , my husband, works very hard at running a few businesses. These businesses keep him out the house every night during the week and most of the weekend he is out during the day . Having one baby is easy for me to cope with, its one on one lol, although some days can be hard, like any parent, as most of the time it is just me. If we had two this would change our life dramatically. I couldn’t take April to as many places with a baby and get the same results. I would be more tired dealing with two children almost every night on my own , not forgetting my work as we cannot afford for me to not work and that would add pressure on to our relationship and the small time we get together as a couple. This would impact April and her life too. Yes I would have another member of the family which I am sure I would love unconditionally , in fact I know I would but I am being sensible and real and thinking of my family as it is now. The bond I have with them.
I shouldn’t have to explain this to others , I have thought about this for us and our life together not the world. Not nosy people who just reply with “An Only child is a lonely child” . I think that is so unfair . who is to say that the pressure of 2 children , 3 jobs , a house and not enough hours would end in divorce and a broken family . Surely this would be worse. Why would they be lonely ? I have only one child to pay for and therefore she will have lot of clubs to go to and play dates that I can arrange as very easy with one.
A dear friend of mine has one gorgeous little boy at the same age as April, however she has had to give birth to two sleeping babies (one is hard enough but two I could not imagine) and still gets the same comment of “When you having more?” with people/stranger that do not know her situation and although this is not intended to hurt, is it really necessary to say? . Maybe we should all let people lead their own life and decide what works for them .
Much love xx
We have got to the stage of “I want I want I want” aghhhh . I have to say its my fault . When she was little she never asked for anything and I would love to get April things and see her face light up with new things and play all day with it. As she got older she would start to pick things herself and get all excited about it . She would pick up a teddy and hug it in the shop and next minute I was at the till buying it . I know I created a rod for my own back .
The shops nowadays are so cheap , every second shop is a charity or a 99p shop so the things she would get were never expensive .( I dont have that much money ha ha ). Supermarkets always have a cheap toy section and there are always items on sale so she got there too when we went for a food shop . Sometimes a chocolate surprise egg , other times a toy bargain or book . However what I didnt realise was happening was the she was learning that she got something EVERY time we went out (or just about ).
Feels so silly and obvious when writing it down that it was wrong but when you are in the 99p shop and they grab a little doll I didnt bother after all it was 99p .
However it has changed this weekend when after buying her a balloon to celebrate finishing school for the summer she decided ,when home, she had enough of that balloon and DEMANDED (can you believe that ) a new balloon. I was shocked at the way she wanted a new balloon and that she thought it was just as simple as going and getting a new one . When she was told no she burst the balloon (sneakily ) and said oh no that one broke we better go and get a new one . Determined little monkey eh . Well I decided enough was enough and the thinking around all this had to change.
I didnt get things like this when I was little as the shops and prices were not the same . I grew up knowing money was scarce and we didnt have much and the pressure it had on my parents . Although I didnt want her dealing with money and worries like that I did need her to know that you have to have money to buy things .
SO I have bought these lovely coins off ebay . They have numbers on them for being used as screen time however we are just going to use them as ‘coins’ . . We found a cute jar in the supermarket for £2 and we have a new system.
April behaves and helps out she will get coins , if she doesnt she will not get any coins and if she is very naughty she will get coins taken away . The coins dont represent any value in our house but that may change as she gets older , she is only 3. When she wants something she will use her coins for it , this way allows us to decide if she can get the item or not as no value to the coins and if its too expensive we will just say not enough coins etc etc. then all the coins are used on any purchase and she has to start again . If I really want to get her something I can say I had a coin from working that I shared with her .
Like this little monkey could ever be naughty lol
I think this is the best approach for our house to teach her simply . ‘You need money to get stuff its not free ‘ lol
What do you think xx