Oh baby girl
Tomorrow morning at 8:15am we are off to get you the meningitis B Jab. Its costing mummy and daddy a lot of pennies, as the health system wont give to all children, but your life is priceless so we are trying to do the best we can to keep you safe.
You are not the best fan of jabs since your age 3 jabs at the doctors but we have been practicing lots and lots and mummy has changed the name of it to superpower scratch jab . The superpower is to fight a horrible disease in this world and the scratch part is the feeling the jab gives you. This seems to have helped a lot and with the added large toy you seem good to go. You tell me that you will be able to punch the disease with your superpowers lol.
When thinking of having a baby no one prepares you for the emotions of trying to do your best. I try to think of the best ways to keep you safe and also not to believe everything which is told in the world. The health industry is at the same time a business and I try and keep this in mind when considering best options for you. Meningitis however is a horrible horrible monster that I don’t want to have to deal with . We had a big scare when you were a 4 month old baby and I don’t want that again. This jab will protect you all through your life and although many strains of meningitis I am doing what I can , with what is available to keep you safe.
Be brave tomorrow my little one we will be there with you , as always , It might be sore but if the horrible monster got you it would be worse. 2 mins of the superpower scratch jab and it will be all over and the magic fairy will be right there to heal it .
Mummy and Daddy
From the moment you meet someone its “when you getting a ring on that finger?” , “When is the wedding ?” , “Do you guys want kids ?” and then the “When you having another?”
Its usually from someone who has done all the above and living their, now routine, life through you . Maybe I am being harsh but from someone that has heard these comments A LOT I feel strongly about leaving people to do things their way and in their own time.
It’s not a race and there is no rule book
SO here I am having met someone , got the ring , got married and had the baby . So I am around about the last question. “When is the second baby coming?” . Well its not. One child fits us and our life nicely . Is this selfish .
I am in this life with my amazing family once and our life isn’t straight forward 9 -5 . Gary , my husband, works very hard at running a few businesses. These businesses keep him out the house every night during the week and most of the weekend he is out during the day . Having one baby is easy for me to cope with, its one on one lol, although some days can be hard, like any parent, as most of the time it is just me. If we had two this would change our life dramatically. I couldn’t take April to as many places with a baby and get the same results. I would be more tired dealing with two children almost every night on my own , not forgetting my work as we cannot afford for me to not work and that would add pressure on to our relationship and the small time we get together as a couple. This would impact April and her life too. Yes I would have another member of the family which I am sure I would love unconditionally , in fact I know I would but I am being sensible and real and thinking of my family as it is now. The bond I have with them.
I shouldn’t have to explain this to others , I have thought about this for us and our life together not the world. Not nosy people who just reply with “An Only child is a lonely child” . I think that is so unfair . who is to say that the pressure of 2 children , 3 jobs , a house and not enough hours would end in divorce and a broken family . Surely this would be worse. Why would they be lonely ? I have only one child to pay for and therefore she will have lot of clubs to go to and play dates that I can arrange as very easy with one.
A dear friend of mine has one gorgeous little boy at the same age as April, however she has had to give birth to two sleeping babies (one is hard enough but two I could not imagine) and still gets the same comment of “When you having more?” with people/stranger that do not know her situation and although this is not intended to hurt, is it really necessary to say? . Maybe we should all let people lead their own life and decide what works for them .
Much love xx
Well last day of nursery and it all went wrong .
Ever have a picture in your head about how things will go? . I do and it never goes the way I hoped. Gary , my husband, says I am idealistic. I like to think I am positive with a bit of magic lol. It started with a tantrum because ……. she woke up . Thats my conclusion anyway as not one thing happened before that and my eyes hadnt even opened yet.
she then wouldnt get dressed with out a lot of “get dressed now before we are late” shouted at her . I was tired before even getting to nursery .
She went in fine but complained about the hat I made as it didnt fit and she didnt like it and she didnt want to wear it . SIGHHHHH
The parents were to go back at 10:30 for a little tea party and when I went in she come running up all smiles . I gave her a bit hug and she then said I WANT CHOCOLATE ( the chocolate we made) but I didnt know where anything was as its not MY nursery ha ha . That resulted in tears and the teachers asking “whats wrong April” it ends up the chocolates were out in the kid room and she was free to get them but ‘couldnt’ with out me . So there I am feeling very uncomfortable wandering around the nursery with the shy crying child (let it be known she is not shy any other time at nursery or at home) She then ‘demands ‘ crisps which I said no and was starting to get annoyed with the spoilt child in the room, and annoyed it was my child .
She didnt take part in the first half of the games they did and instead just cried. I now wished I hadnt bothered.
Second half she did take part and I felt like a breakthrough . The end came and we left with april crying bcause she couldnt find the hat she made. You know the one she hated and wouldnt wear.
I wanted to start a tradition that at the end of every school year she got a balloon but now I was stuck between the tradition not getting started and spoiling an already spoilt child . We picked up daddy and I ranted to him about my day and then got to the balloon shop for a successful balloon purchase.
Its now half 7 and April is in bed, the balloon is burst and in the bin (child stamped on it) and mummy is opening some wine. Dont judge . Tomorrow is a new day . Thankfully
Here are some of the better pictures….hiding the bad parts of the day (pictures are good at that )
I cannot believe tomorrow is your last day at nursery for the summer. It has been great seeing you change when at nursery and also weird knowing you have a little life outside mummy and daddys world, and its just yours. However its all part of growing up and I am so very proud of you and the way you have excepted the challenge.
You only started January due to your age, but the six months have seen you grow with confidence and courage. You go with such confidence and you have made friends of your very own.
Its all new to me and your dad and we are trying to go with the flow with what happens and whats expected and try to show an interest and be part of each step when we can (allowed lol , the control freak momma has to have a step back )
Our first summer break and we will have lots of fun adventures I promise ( we couldnt stay in with your energy ) The entire week I have thought about you leaving for holiday and had to keep reminding myself that you are the one off for 6 weeks not mommy lol. I wish it was me.
This week I have managed to be on top form with organising . I have done sweets for the teachers , wrote a letter to your little friends mum about meeting up over the holidays (sadly she hasnt text me but at least I can say I tried) and sorted your Mad Hatter hat for your party tomorrow
Today I rushed home (after a very long day ) and we made chocolate shapes for you party tomorrow too . It wasnt too easy with you as my assistant this time around and there wasnt much concentration being had with the mad singing you were doing lol but we did it in the end .
I have your blackboard ready for tomorrow and I am loving that I can be part of your life and make the events as special as I can .
Wishing you the best last day my gorgeous girl and a fun summer break with mama and dada .
Love you to the moon and back . xx
April is three but its a digital world for her since her birth . She has seen us use our phones for just about everything and soon we seen her copy the ‘swiping’ action before she could even stand on her own. The ipad was amazing for her as a baby as you have a lot of educational apps and videos on it and from a young age she would watch things to help with her eye coordination and hearing to name a few. It was a natural part of her world …..Sometimes I think that is sad and others I think its a very good thing IF USED CORRECTLY .
April found the youtube app on her own and managed (I dont know how) to discover the surprise opening videos herself . She gets limited time on the IPAD for watching things like this before moving on to an educational app that we do together (if she lets me) but nonetheless she likes youtube .
So I decided one day we would create our own youtube video that way she would have fun watching herself. I am quite a shy person and easy to hide behind the computer screen and this blog but I thought it would be fun ….. April took a little bit to get into it but then she was all pro at the end ….Have a watch.
We are heading to DisneyLand in Paris. Woohoo. I cannot wait. April is just three and although not sure of all that it is about she knows she gets to meet all the princesses and give them a cuddle.
I like lists and I like a bit of control. I like to think I have everything I need when I go or at least feel I have thought of most things. Think all mums are the same so I thought I would give a quick look at my list of things to take. This is tailored to our Disney holiday but it still gives some ideas of things you might forget on your list
My Disney visit toddler list
- Pull ups/bed pants – April is out of nappies but thought she may be extra tired and didn’t need any issues with an accident so this was easy
- Wet wipes – For a million reasons lol
- Favourite teddy – Something to remind them of home and security , especially if first trip away .
- Musical light – April uses a musical toy at bedtime so we took that with her so her routine, even if later , was similar
- Dress up clothes – believe me cheaper than Disney
- Sweets / chocolate – Disney is expensive and food can be different so take things you know your kids like and will eat for snacks . Definitely helped
- Empty juice container – easy to pour juice and water into and no spills
- Zippy bags – helps put sweets into or unfinished food for later. You know toddlers
- Nappy cream – I find April can get rashes quick so this is something to have handy
- Calpol/Medicine – obvious reasons. don’t want to be stuck with out
- Thermometer – I like to know what I am dealing with if ill
- Clothes – I am sure you know what clothes to pack lol
- Separate tights and socks (cold and hot) – I took both tights and socks. That way could easily make an outfit for sunshine or wet weather
- 2 full days of extra clothes – I took two full day’s worth of clothes extra. that way felt covered for accidents or very different weather or even a fussy toddler
- Blanket- Cosy cover if really cold or asleep in pushchair
- Pushchair- there is too much walking for them. Must have a pushchair. You can hire them but definitely think about this
- Backpack with colouring pens and toys for plane
- Sun cream – hopefully sunny days
- Surprise toys for when bored – I kept small cheap toys for when April got bored and pulled them out . Got us some time and worth doing. Queues can be long so distraction works great
- Shoes – at least two pairs so they are different on feet and not rub with all the walking
- Change of clothes for mummy bag – another good idea in case accidents or maybe get cold.
- Hoodie and light rain jacket – I felt this was enough to either double up or make lighter. Plus if really cold you have a blanket too
- Facecloth – never seem to get a facecloth at hotels and worth taking for those cute messy faces.
- Plasters for bobos
- Hair bobbles and clips
- A new toothbrush and toothpaste
I think that’s it. Oh wait ……. Have Fun Fun Fun
We are very blessed to have a lot of sun at the moment. I love it. April and I are getting out and about a whole lot more. Parks and walks and mini adventure.
I always feel like we, as parents, spend so much time and money trying to entertain our little munchkins on rainy days. Toys, days out to soft play, dinners , cinema. The list is endless . Unlike our bank accounts. Sunny days are great for just getting out to parks and the beach and having fun without it costing much at all. Maybe just an icecream. Long may it last . xx
Okay seems like I am throwing this word out of the blue. However let me tell you a story, as a small child (around 7/8) I was fascinated by adoption and fostering although I didnt know there was a difference at that age. I watched many films around the subject and asked question after question, being very curious on the matter.
I was actually never sure that I would have my own, I was so aware of the amount of children that needed a home that I was never sure I wanted to bring one in to the world and more about helping the ones already here.
I began respite fostering when I was 22 …. the process was long but I went throught this and it was very informative and very well done and I got a baby boy of 14 months old when I was around 24. The process isnt so much long as massive breaks in between . (just incase someone is put off by that sentence)
When we did decide to have our own it was the best time of my entire life and she is my utter world. She is more than I ever knew , I love more than I have ever loved anything in my life and with her my want for adoption and to help another child grew also
Respite fostering (to jump back a little ) is where you work with the family . Get involved with things and have the children or child one weekend a month (or whatever you can do ) it worked well for me , the family and the child. It was amazing. The best thing I have ever done (besides my own baby girl ) . Usually respite fostering moves on when things are good and after a few months/years ( a bit like mary poppins) however I kept fostering with the same little boy for 10 years. 10 years you guys! He was basically my baby boy too 🙂 . I got on with the family very very well and fostered the brother too. Initally separately and then together as they grew. They became family very very quickly .
This has just ended within the year and with fostering for so long with the same family it was so routine and just home from home for them and for us too. With this naturally ending we are at a bit of a cross road . DO we take on someone new? will that be scary again ? we have April to think about now or WILL WE LOOK AT ADOPTION?!
The last one is my dream and at the same time I am scared. I think its good to be scared . I think that shows seriousness of the thought. It cant be a whim . It has to work . For the child, for us , for April. Its a forever decision. This cant be made instantly and it has been something I have thought about for a long long time. I need to make sure the realisim is in that thought too .
- Will I love them the same ?
- Will they fit in ?
- Will we give them the best life?
- Will it work ?
- Will they feel the same as April?
- Will we miss just having April?
- Will I manage with two (I know you mommas out there have lots more but I am being honest so please dont judge)?
- Will I cope ?
- Will me and gary manage?
- Will we afford it ?
- Will the kids fight ?
- Will it be hard
Its probably no different than when we thought about having our own and perhaps if I wanted a second I would go through these questions again . Then I think of the big picture. Sunday morning, us all in bed together , two little girls laughing and becoming best friends …..Oh no I have some tears now…… see it is important to me and if anyone is still with me then please let me know what you think.
It will not be tomorrow and will not be this year however do I start the journey or do I stick with my amazing trio ?
xxxx thanks for your ears …… it means a lot .xx