We have got to the stage of “I want I want I want” aghhhh . I have to say its my fault . When she was little she never asked for anything and I would love to get April things and see her face light up with new things and play all day with it. As she got older she would start to pick things herself and get all excited about it . She would pick up a teddy and hug it in the shop and next minute I was at the till buying it . I know I created a rod for my own back .
The shops nowadays are so cheap , every second shop is a charity or a 99p shop so the things she would get were never expensive .( I dont have that much money ha ha ). Supermarkets always have a cheap toy section and there are always items on sale so she got there too when we went for a food shop . Sometimes a chocolate surprise egg , other times a toy bargain or book . However what I didnt realise was happening was the she was learning that she got something EVERY time we went out (or just about ).
Feels so silly and obvious when writing it down that it was wrong but when you are in the 99p shop and they grab a little doll I didnt bother after all it was 99p .
However it has changed this weekend when after buying her a balloon to celebrate finishing school for the summer she decided ,when home, she had enough of that balloon and DEMANDED (can you believe that ) a new balloon. I was shocked at the way she wanted a new balloon and that she thought it was just as simple as going and getting a new one . When she was told no she burst the balloon (sneakily ) and said oh no that one broke we better go and get a new one . Determined little monkey eh . Well I decided enough was enough and the thinking around all this had to change.
I didnt get things like this when I was little as the shops and prices were not the same . I grew up knowing money was scarce and we didnt have much and the pressure it had on my parents . Although I didnt want her dealing with money and worries like that I did need her to know that you have to have money to buy things .
SO I have bought these lovely coins off ebay . They have numbers on them for being used as screen time however we are just going to use them as ‘coins’ . . We found a cute jar in the supermarket for £2 and we have a new system.
April behaves and helps out she will get coins , if she doesnt she will not get any coins and if she is very naughty she will get coins taken away . The coins dont represent any value in our house but that may change as she gets older , she is only 3. When she wants something she will use her coins for it , this way allows us to decide if she can get the item or not as no value to the coins and if its too expensive we will just say not enough coins etc etc. then all the coins are used on any purchase and she has to start again . If I really want to get her something I can say I had a coin from working that I shared with her .
Like this little monkey could ever be naughty lol
I think this is the best approach for our house to teach her simply . ‘You need money to get stuff its not free ‘ lol
What do you think xx