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Coincidence ? God?

In a very weird way, a  Joel Osteen you tube video turned up in my life today.  I have to wonder when things like this happen.  Is it a coincidence?  Is there such a thing?  If its all meant to be then it’s a sign……right ?

I am a believer in a higher being, higher spirit, higher love.  I always believed in God and Jesus as a child but we were not a church going family and were not a reading family so the bible was definitely not something we read or had.  My mum and dad were not opposed to God but more opposed to religion.  Limiting and rules I think.  My mum always said that if god was all loving and if god made us then he wouldn’t make us born with sin.  No parent would.  She also told me that you don’t need to go to church to pray or talk with god as not everyone can walk and not everyone can talk.  C you can do it anywhere.  I clearly must have asked a lot about god and why we didn’t go to church for these to be her answers.  She at least left me to make my own decisions but we were never overly encouraged forward and thats probably because their parents didn’t either.

However we are in a ‘healing’ part of our life and Joel Osteen seems to have popped into my life with some amazing motivational videos.  It was as if the video that I got shown was exactly what I needed.  a message from above?  A sign ?  I would like to think so

Me and my husband listened to his videos all afternoon.  The uplift we felt was incredible.  My husband before our life changing event was not religious or overly believing but strange what life will do to you.  We have been forced to change our life and in small ways, slowly, god has entered?  I dont know if I am holding hope but I am ready to embrace this new part of it.  I like to think that there is someone , up there, looking out for me.

Lorraine

When the world gives you lemons

Not sure how to start this blog.  2016 did not end the way it was meant to.   The cause….People, evil people.  I have always been a sensitive person and a person who wears my heart on my sleeve.  I hurt easily and love easily.  Found it to be a tough end to the year when people decide to lie, lie to seek revenge for something that didn’t need revenge.  Hate is a horrible thing and the actions people take to do things to  people they dislike.   Well I hope they reap what they sow.  Karma will seek revenge I hope.  They ( the wise people we never know lol) say that what you put out in the world you get back.  At times I have to admit I think thats why evil turned up at our door but in return it should turn up at theirs.  I don’t wish bad on anyone but I do hope Karma is involved.

Any way enough of that.  We are into 2017 .  Broken, hurt, sad and a little bit more wary but we are here, we are a family and thats all we can ask.

I write this blog for me, no-one else.  I loved doing diaries when I was little and I every time I have started a blog I end up stopping and always so difficult to close it with all my posts on and my pictures on so I will continue this and keep my cute memories.

2017 is definitely a NEW NEW NEW start for me.  I have never had a new start like it .  I don’t know where I am going or what I am going to do but maybe writing some of it down and the changes I get will be an amazing journey to record.

I believe very much in the Law of Attraction and lets see if it can make its difference for me this year.

 

Birthday party day

April turned four on the 30th October.  We decided this year we would do a birthday party for her, we have previously had them in the house but this year we thought we would go all out and have a proper party.  I think 4 is the best age, for April anyway, as she knew what it was all about, knew what fun was to be had and wasn’t too overwhelmed.  

Me however.  Ahhhhhh I had lists coming out of my ears.   I organised entertainers who did a disco and party games but I still felt there was a lot to do.  I am a bit of a prefectionsist, or I try to be, so I always felt there was something I had forgot.   It was great fun coming up with little ideas and fun party prizes and party bags.  

April had a blast, all the kids did.   Was all worth it seeing the smile on their faces.  Even better when she got Olaf to join the party.  Well done me.  I deserved my glass of wine when it was all over 

Bake bake cake

Remind me next year that I just need to buy a cake, go to shop and let April pick a cake from the supermarket.  Soooooo much easier.   After all do kids really bother if it’s homemade. Do they care how it actually tastes.  April doesn’t even eat cake but there I am with a recipe which has 10 eggs in it.   What was I thinking !

Youtube open for my lesson on buttercream and off I went .  The results, gladly, was a lovely cake. And a very messy kitchen, icing that got everywhere , 6 hours gone from my day as well as £30. Again.  Remind me next year to buy a cake.   I was however very very impressed by myself lol.  

Nothing ever goes as you plan

Just a short wee post.  This weekend I had it full of lots of activities and non stop fun but. …..   best laid plans never happen.   I woke up at around 2:30 with a head cold.   Seriously I’m too busy so please go away …. just in case you think that worked.  It didn’t .  I fell asleep again around 4 and my gorgeous girl woke me at 8.  I still had the head cold .   

Well had to change a few things but in the end it was still a good day.  We got baking the cakes for tomorrow and had fun doing that.  

The pumpkins didn’t get done and the pumpkin patch/farm didn’t get visited. However we will still have fun making pumpkin faces on Monday.  Maybe even Sunday night on her birthday .  Moral of my blog.  Have to go with the flow 😂

New hobby

For my upcoming birthday (30 something) I was super lucky to get a camera.   Got it a little early as I can never wait ha ha.  

I love the start of something new.  So exciting and so much to learn.   Keeps me interested and surprised with each new part.

Different from when I grew up I would have had to go to the library and taken out a book to learn anything like this.  Then hoped I understood it.   Now there is  YouTube, yay, and so many online classes and tutorial, you can learn so much.

While waiting for my new toy to be delivered I got online to learn some very basic basic things and as soon as it arrived we were off, well sort of lol

We went to the beach, had an awesome family day and here are some of my first shots.  

Love from Lorraine 

Our Summer schedule

School holidays seem long and we are just experiencing our first school summer holiday.  April only started nursery in January so we are used to her being with us.  The school holidays arent quite that different to us yet.  However I like to start as I mean to go on .
Gary, Aprils daddy, is self employed and works very hard and going away for a couple of weeks when you have a business isnt always possible.  So I got creative. I work part time so I am off Thursday – Sunday .
I sometimes feel being off with kids is a whole lot of money being spent trying to entertain them and then with out planning its actually more like wasted money .
I find planning fun and with that came up with the idea of craft things to do and a really good day out every week to look forward to . Then a Sunday in house playing with the mountain of toys she already has.  We have our special summer days out and here is a list of our summer weeks.
Week one . – Circus is in town . yay . Got best seats and had full day with friends at this , candy floss , balloons . When in Rome lol.
Week two – Gymnastics summer camp . This was on for three days and the bonus is that I get some me time too . she has three full fun days.
Week three – Airshow . Full day event and picnic will be taken too
Week four – Thomas tank day . _ trip on a thomas tank train .
Week five – Weekend away for some fun fun fun . beach , parks and some adventure
Week Six – safari park and if sunny can take our BBQ
I have filled our ‘special summer days’ with full days out and I mainly like to do these on a Saturday so that my sundays are lazy days.  I like having a plan and I also like to keep ideas up my sleeve for reserve.
Reserve list for bored days.
zoo
Cinema
park
baking
beach
swimming
soft play .
So I am hoping this list helps you out a little too .
Have a fun fun fun summer x

When you having another?

From the moment you meet someone its “when you getting a ring on that finger?”  , “When is the wedding ?” , “Do you guys want kids ?”  and then the “When you having another?”

 

Its usually from someone who has done all the above and living their, now routine, life through you .  Maybe I am being harsh but from someone that has heard these comments  A  LOT  I feel strongly about leaving people to do things their way and in their own time. 

 

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SO here I am having met someone , got the ring , got married and had the baby . So I am around about the last question. “When is the second baby coming?” .  Well its not.  One child fits us and our life nicely .  Is this selfish .

 

I am in this life with my amazing family once and our life isn’t straight forward  9 -5 .  Gary , my husband, works very hard at running a few businesses.  These businesses keep him out the house every night during the week and most of the weekend he is out during the day .  Having one baby is easy for me to cope with, its one on one lol, although some days can be hard, like any parent, as most of the time it is just me.  If we had two this would change our life dramatically.  I couldn’t take April to as many places with a baby and get the same results.  I would be more tired dealing with two children almost every night on my own , not forgetting my work as we cannot afford for me to not work and that would add pressure on to our relationship and the small time we get together as a couple.  This would impact April and her life too.  Yes I would have another member of the family which I am sure I would love unconditionally , in fact I know I would but I am being sensible and real and thinking of my family as it is now. The bond I have with them.  

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I shouldn’t have to explain this to others , I have thought about this for us and our life together not the world.  Not nosy people who just reply with “An Only child is a lonely child”  .  I think that is so unfair .  who is to say that the pressure of 2 children , 3 jobs , a house and not enough hours would end in divorce and a broken family . Surely this would be worse.  Why would they be lonely ?  I have only one child to pay for and therefore she will have lot of clubs to go to and play dates that I can arrange as very easy with one.

 

A dear friend of mine has one gorgeous little boy at the same age as April, however she has had to give birth to two sleeping babies (one is hard enough but two I could not imagine)  and still gets the same comment of “When you having more?” with people/stranger that do not know her situation and although this is not intended to hurt, is it really necessary to say? .  Maybe we should all let people lead their own life and decide what works for them . 

Much love xx 

I want I want I want

We have got to the stage of “I want I want I want”  aghhhh .   I have to say its my fault . When she was little she never asked for anything and I would love to get April things and see her face light up with new things and play all day with it.  As she got older she would start to pick things herself and get all excited about it . She would pick up a teddy and hug it in the shop and next minute I was at the till buying it .  I know I created a rod for my own back .

The shops nowadays are so cheap , every second shop is a charity or a 99p shop so the things she would get were never expensive .( I dont have that much money ha ha ).  Supermarkets always have a cheap toy section and there are always items on sale so she got there too when we went for a food shop . Sometimes a chocolate surprise egg , other times a toy bargain or book . However what I didnt realise was happening was the she was learning that she got something EVERY time we went out (or just about ).

Feels so silly and obvious when writing it down that it was wrong but when you are in the 99p shop and they grab a little doll I didnt bother after all it was 99p .

However it has changed this weekend when after buying her a balloon to celebrate finishing school for the summer she decided ,when home, she had enough of that balloon and DEMANDED (can you believe that ) a new balloon.  I was shocked at the way she wanted a new balloon and that she thought it was just as simple as going and getting a new one . When she was told no she burst the balloon (sneakily ) and said oh no that one broke we better go and get a new one .  Determined little monkey eh . Well I decided enough was enough and the thinking around all this had to change.

I didnt get things like this when I was little as the shops and prices were not the same . I grew up knowing money was scarce and we didnt have much and the pressure it had on my parents . Although I didnt want her dealing with money and worries like that I did need her to know that you have to have money to buy things .

SO I have bought these lovely coins off ebay . They have numbers on them for being used as screen time however we are just going to use them as ‘coins’  .  . We found a cute jar in the supermarket for £2 and we have a new system.

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April behaves and helps out she will get coins , if she doesnt she will not get any coins and if she is very naughty she will get coins taken away .   The coins dont represent any value in our house but that may change as she gets older , she is only 3.  When she wants something she will use her coins for it , this way allows us to decide if she can get the item or not as no value to the coins and if its too expensive we will just say not enough coins etc etc.  then all the coins are used on any purchase and she has to start again .  If I really want to get her something I can say I had a coin from working that I shared with her .

Like this little monkey could ever be naughty lol

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I think this is the best approach for our house to teach her simply . ‘You need money to get stuff its not free ‘  lol

 

What do you think xx

 

 

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