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Bake bake cake

Remind me next year that I just need to buy a cake, go to shop and let April pick a cake from the supermarket.  Soooooo much easier.   After all do kids really bother if it’s homemade. Do they care how it actually tastes.  April doesn’t even eat cake but there I am with a recipe which has 10 eggs in it.   What was I thinking !

Youtube open for my lesson on buttercream and off I went .  The results, gladly, was a lovely cake. And a very messy kitchen, icing that got everywhere , 6 hours gone from my day as well as ¬£30. Again.  Remind me next year to buy a cake.   I was however very very impressed by myself lol.  

Nothing ever goes as you plan

Just a short wee post.  This weekend I had it full of lots of activities and non stop fun but. …..   best laid plans never happen.   I woke up at around 2:30 with a head cold.   Seriously I’m too busy so please go away …. just in case you think that worked.  It didn’t .  I fell asleep again around 4 and my gorgeous girl woke me at 8.  I still had the head cold .   

Well had to change a few things but in the end it was still a good day.  We got baking the cakes for tomorrow and had fun doing that.  

The pumpkins didn’t get done and the pumpkin patch/farm didn’t get visited. However we will still have fun making pumpkin faces on Monday.  Maybe even Sunday night on her birthday .  Moral of my blog.  Have to go with the flow ūüėā

October 

I love October.  It’s my little princess’s birthday, which I just adore planning and organising. Halloween and gorgeous autumn days.  

April turns 4 this year (cannot believe she is 4) and this year she is fully aware of birthdays and the fun of it all. Last year when she was 2 turning 3 she wasn’t sure about it all and very overwhelmed so this year is exciting.  Every year they are at a different stage and birthdays and christmases are new again 

So this weekend is full full full.  Friday we are carving pumpkins , Birthday party on Saturday (first proper party) Sunday is birthday and she is getting a bunny rabbit and Monday is Halloween.   So much fun to be had in one weekend.  I can’t wait.  Wish me luck lol 

Family safari adventure 

Best laid plans and all that….. I bought tickets to use over the summer for a lovely day out to safari park zoo near us.  Plans of sunny day, shorts and t-shirt, BBQ and full day lazing about there.  Summer came and went and I had to use them or lose them.  This weekend was it.  

Rained all day saturday so went for double or nothing for the Sunday.  Bright but cold.   Off we went.  God likes a laugh too I think and we parked the car and the rain fell.   Rain never hurt anyone and off we went.  It might not hurt anyone but it’s still cold lol.   We had a good day anyway although a little shorter.   I even managed a hot cuppa tea to keep my hands from turning to ice, while April and daddy went on the boat.  

Any day is a memory 

A nothing day

There aren’t many ‘lazy days’ when you have a three year old.  As much as I love nothing else than cosy pj days in my home watching films with cosy blankets and chocolates,  a three year old def isn’t good company and it’s the quickest cabin fever experience you will have.  

April is my world. I miss her when she sleeps. But the same games over and over and over again (at this age especially) is a tad boring so my lazy days become nothing days. Which is make up with spending hours outside the house doing stuff but nothing too over the top and places where there is less people makes it better lol. 

So we had a play date with a friend at a small little cafe.  Even luckier that it had a super tiny soft play and no one else there 

Good hour and a half spent .   Next up. Ice cream parlour (who can say no to ice cream ).  

Great another hour and a half spent.  We are out , spending time together and not stuck up in house but yet doing very little and hoodie dress code accepted.

Final part of day is going to friends house and letting kids play as I sit chilling on the sofa with my friend.  Not too bad. April had fun (therefore less mum guilt). Total spent was ¬£9. And I feel like I had a pretty chilled out day.  Awesome.  

Now where is the wine ūüėė

Our Summer schedule

School holidays seem long and we are just experiencing our first school summer holiday.  April only started nursery in January so we are used to her being with us.  The school holidays arent quite that different to us yet.  However I like to start as I mean to go on .
Gary, Aprils daddy, is self employed and works very hard and going away for a couple of weeks when you have a business isnt always possible.  So I got creative. I work part time so I am off Thursday РSunday .
I sometimes feel being off with kids is a whole lot of money being spent trying to entertain them and then with out planning its actually more like wasted money .
I find planning fun and with that came up with the idea of craft things to do and a really good day out every week to look forward to . Then a Sunday in house playing with the mountain of toys she already has.  We have our special summer days out and here is a list of our summer weeks.
Week one . – Circus is in town . yay . Got best seats and had full day with friends at this , candy floss , balloons . When in Rome lol.
Week two – Gymnastics summer camp . This was on for three days and the bonus is that I get some me time too . she has three full fun days.
Week three – Airshow . Full day event and picnic will be taken too
Week four – Thomas tank day . _ trip on a thomas tank train .
Week five – Weekend away for some fun fun fun . beach , parks and some adventure
Week Six Рsafari park and if sunny can take our BBQ
I have filled our ‘special summer days’ with full days out and I mainly like to do these on a Saturday so that my sundays are lazy days.¬† I like having a plan and I also like to keep ideas up my sleeve for reserve.
Reserve list for bored days.
zoo
Cinema
park
baking
beach
swimming
soft play .
So I am hoping this list helps you out a little too .
Have a fun fun fun summer x

Meningitis B Jab

Oh baby girl 

 

Tomorrow morning at 8:15am we are off to get you the meningitis B Jab.  Its costing mummy and daddy a lot of pennies, as the health system wont give to all children,  but your life is priceless so we are trying to do the best we can to keep you safe.

 

You are not the best fan of jabs since your age 3 jabs at the doctors but we have been practicing lots and lots and mummy has changed the name of it to superpower scratch jab .  The superpower is to fight a horrible disease in this world and the scratch part is the feeling the jab gives you.  This seems to have helped a lot and with the added large toy you seem good to go.  You tell me that you will be able to punch the disease with your superpowers lol. 

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When thinking of having a baby no one prepares you for the emotions of trying to do your best.¬† I try to think of the best ways to keep you safe and also not to believe everything which is told in the world.¬† The health industry is at the same time a business and I try and keep this in mind when considering best options for you.¬† Meningitis however is a horrible horrible monster that I don’t want to have to deal with .¬† We had a big scare when you were a 4 month old baby and I don’t want that again.¬† This jab will protect you all through your life and although many strains of meningitis I am doing what I can , with what is available to keep you safe.¬†

 

Be brave tomorrow my little one we will be there with you , as always ,  It might be sore but if the horrible monster got you it would be worse.  2 mins of the superpower scratch jab and it will be all over and the magic fairy will be right there to heal it . 

 

Mummy and Daddy

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When you having another?

From the moment you meet someone its “when you getting a ring on that finger?”¬† , “When is the wedding ?” , “Do you guys want kids ?”¬† and then the “When you having another?”

 

Its usually from someone who has done all the above and living their, now routine, life through you .  Maybe I am being harsh but from someone that has heard these comments  A  LOT  I feel strongly about leaving people to do things their way and in their own time. 

 

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SO here I am having met someone , got the ring , got married and had the baby . So I am around about the last question. “When is the second baby coming?” .¬† Well its not.¬† One child fits us and our life nicely .¬† Is this selfish .

 

I am in this life with my amazing family once and our life isn’t straight forward¬† 9 -5 .¬† Gary , my husband, works very hard at running a few businesses.¬† These businesses keep him out the house every night during the week and most of the weekend he is out during the day .¬† Having one baby is easy for me to cope with, its one on one lol, although some days can be hard, like any parent, as most of the time it is just me.¬† If we had two this would change our life dramatically.¬† I couldn’t take April to as many places with a baby¬†and get the same results.¬† I would be more tired dealing with two children¬†almost every night¬†on my own , not¬†forgetting my work as we cannot afford¬†for me to not work and that would add pressure on to our relationship and the small time we get together as a couple.¬† This would impact¬†April and her life too.¬†¬†Yes I would have another member of the family which I am sure I would love unconditionally , in fact I know I would but I am being sensible and¬†real and thinking of¬†my family as it is now. The bond I have with them.¬†¬†

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I shouldn’t have to explain this to others , I have thought about this for us and our life together not the world.¬† Not¬†nosy people who just reply with “An Only child is a lonely¬†child”¬† .¬† I think that is so unfair .¬†¬†who is to say that the pressure of 2 children , 3 jobs , a house and not enough hours would end in divorce and a broken family .¬†Surely this would be worse.¬† Why would they be lonely ?¬† I have only one child to pay for and therefore she will have lot of clubs to go to and play dates that I can arrange as very easy with¬†one.

 

A dear friend of mine has one gorgeous little boy at the same age as April, however she has had to give birth to two sleeping babies (one is hard enough but two I could not imagine)¬† and still gets the same comment of “When you having more?” with people/stranger that do not know her situation and although this is not¬†intended to hurt, is it really necessary to say? .¬† Maybe we should all let people lead their own life and decide what works for them .¬†

Much love xx 

I want I want I want

We have got to the stage of “I want I want I want” ¬†aghhhh . ¬† I have to say its my fault . When she was little she never asked for anything and I would love to get April things and see her face light up with new things and play all day with it. ¬†As she got older she would start to pick things herself and get all excited about it . She would pick up a teddy and hug it in the shop and next minute I was at the till buying it . ¬†I know I created a rod for my own back .

The shops nowadays are so cheap , every second shop is a charity or a 99p shop so the things she would get were never expensive .( I dont have that much money ha ha ).  Supermarkets always have a cheap toy section and there are always items on sale so she got there too when we went for a food shop . Sometimes a chocolate surprise egg , other times a toy bargain or book . However what I didnt realise was happening was the she was learning that she got something EVERY time we went out (or just about ).

Feels so silly and obvious when writing it down that it was wrong but when you are in the 99p shop and they grab a little doll I didnt bother after all it was 99p .

However it has changed this weekend when after buying her a balloon to celebrate finishing school for the summer she decided ,when home, she had enough of that balloon and DEMANDED (can you believe that ) a new balloon.  I was shocked at the way she wanted a new balloon and that she thought it was just as simple as going and getting a new one . When she was told no she burst the balloon (sneakily ) and said oh no that one broke we better go and get a new one .  Determined little monkey eh . Well I decided enough was enough and the thinking around all this had to change.

I didnt get things like this when I was little as the shops and prices were not the same . I grew up knowing money was scarce and we didnt have much and the pressure it had on my parents . Although I didnt want her dealing with money and worries like that I did need her to know that you have to have money to buy things .

SO I have bought these lovely coins off ebay . They have numbers on them for being used as screen time however we are just going to use them as ‘coins’ ¬†. ¬†. We found a cute jar in the supermarket for ¬£2 and we have a new system.

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April behaves and helps out she will get coins , if she doesnt she will not get any coins and if she is very naughty she will get coins taken away .   The coins dont represent any value in our house but that may change as she gets older , she is only 3.  When she wants something she will use her coins for it , this way allows us to decide if she can get the item or not as no value to the coins and if its too expensive we will just say not enough coins etc etc.  then all the coins are used on any purchase and she has to start again .  If I really want to get her something I can say I had a coin from working that I shared with her .

Like this little monkey could ever be naughty lol

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I think this is the best approach for our house to teach her simply . ‘You need money to get stuff its not free ‘ ¬†lol

 

What do you think xx

 

 

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